Dear Family and Friends, we are gathered here today in the sight of God, and
the Department of the United States Marine Corps, to witness this exchange of
vows, and see the love that these two dedicated, loving people have for one
another.
"Wilt thou, [man], take [woman] (who was once referred as the "dependent"),
as your Family Member, to dwell together in so far as the Marine Corps will
permit?"
"Wilt thou love her, comfort her via the Postal Service or over the phone,
make sure she knows where the commissary, PX, and church are, and what time
she is scheduled to use the laundry room the DAY she arrives, wherever you are
stationed?"
"Wilt thou attempt to tell her more than 24 hours in advance that you will
be leaving for two weeks, beginning the next morning? This especially applies
to the years you will live in a foreign country!"
"Wilt thou, [woman], take this soldier as thy wedded husband, knowing that
he is depending upon you to be the perfect (well, almost) Marine Wife, running
the household as you see fit and being nice to the Commander's Wife? Further,
you understand that your life with your husband (little that you may have together)
will not be normal, that you may have to explain to your children, not once,
but twice, and more often in the same day, that mothers do have husbands. This
soldier is their daddy, who loves them very, very much."
"Wilt thou love, respect and wait for him, preparing his favorite meals
when he does come home, freezing them when he doesn't, send him all his favorite
cookies and pictures of yourself and the kids, so he can remember what you look
like? And last but not least, put on the outside of your door his "Welcome
Home" sign when he's due to arrive?"
"I, [man], take thee [woman], as my independent wife from 1900 to 2200
hours or as long as allowed by my Commanding Officer (subject to change without
notice) For better or worse, earlier or later, near or far, and I promise to
look at the pictures you send me, maybe not when they get to me in the field,
but before I turn the lights out. I will also send a letter if time permits,
and if not, to somehow, some way, make time."
"I, [woman], take thee, [man], as my live-in/live-out husband, realizing
that your coming and going and 0330 staff meetings are a normal (although absurd
to me) part of your life as a soldier. I promise not to be shocked or taken
by surprise when you inform me that, although we've just arrived at our new
duty station, we will be leaving within the month. Yes, I'll have you as my
husband as long as, while you are away, my allotment comes through regularly,
and that you leave me a current power of attorney and the checkbook at all times.
I am a Family Member and proud of it, dependent upon myself and my resources.
Although I miss you when you are away, I know I can handle whatever comes across
my path."
"Now then, let no man or woman put asunder what God and the Department
of the United States Marine Corps have brought together, only for them to soon
say 'Good-bye' to one another. [Man] leaves for his duty assignment in Germany
tomorrow. [Woman] will be joining him whenever the approval arrives. The Marine
Corps hereby issues this lovely, dedicated, independent, woman, knowing that
she'll be an asset not only to your marriage, but also to the Mission of the
United States Marine Corps, which is, as you all know, to remain in a state
of 'Readiness'. By the authority vested in the Bible, elaborated in the regulations
and subject to current directives concerning the aspects of marriage in the
Marines, you are now a Soldier with Family Member. Best Wishes and Good Luck."